hair is hair, right?

i am looking for a change, you know, something new. fantabulous, even.
my hair. yeeaaa, i want some color, some blonde. some red. some brown. even maybe a streak of green?
big chop or fierce cut?
eventually, i'll want weave and wear it consistently. that'll defeat the point, completely. i feel my head is too big for any of it. my sister and friends are saying get the amber rose cut. it'll look good. but i don't know, i want to badly.
dreads?
as pretty as some are and tempting, i'll be snatching them things out of my head in no time. and if anything i'll want the smaller one, i looove the style people have with them but how long will be before i have every style and every look and color. i experiment, and it'll be a year by the time i get every possible hairstyle in color.

i don't know, still researching and soul searching. finding something that'll satisfy this craving. on a budget! ... i don't know, we'll see.
opinions are welcomed. =)

fashion queen?

#1. you are NOT a fashionista wearing what the mannequins in Forever 21 and Charlotte Russe wear.

#2. you are NOT a fashion diva if you always keep up with trend! ... style isn't based on what's in, it is based on how fierce you wear them.

#3. every fashionista knows your clothes compliment you, not make you. your confidence and POISE makes you.

#4. a fashionista designs her OWN look, everyday. and doesn't have to dress up EVERYDAY. most fashionistas wear jeans and t-shirts, only because they excite themselves that they can look PERFECT any day of the week.

#5. fashion trends come from the FASHIONISTA who dared to walk outside looking how she feels not someone who copied the look.

#6. fashion is always and always will be, O R I G I N A L I T Y ! - embrace, your own!

#7. designers will respect someone who will wear a striped shirt and a floral print skirt, patterns. before they respect someone who looks like someone else. fact.

the list can go on for days, but i prefer to stop here. embarrassing people and reminding them that they aren't who they wish they can be is not what i am here for. but i want people to step back and take a look at themselves. i've been a fashion bomb since i was 8-years-old, believe it or not. i took sketching classes, sewing classes at a TOP FASHION SCHOOL by the time i was 13-years-old, Fashion Institute of Technology. i wore sweatpants, regular jeans and just a simple top everyday i was there and blew away my teachers, recommended to come back each year to continue and study there when i graduated high school. Fashion stopped being my highlight, it's such a competitive career to take, your time on top is limited if you aren't consistent. i needed for sure money, living off a dream would NOT secure my family from going broke. so fashion took the backburner in my life and "i got real". although, fashion is always apart of me, in my nature, and i can kill it and look better than you on any given day, i prefer to save my fashion risk-tasking (fashionista, trendsetter, etc.) for my fun days: prom, sweet 16's, engagement parties, bridal showers, bridal parties, weddings, and ALL thangs of that nature.

fashion will always be my number one love, fashion will always be your paste & copy.
learn the difference, then you can really call yourself a fashionista.
but that is all.

xox_MissyJ.

let's save some money!

most of my life i've paid for my girl treatment

• doobie shop
• nails & toes
• eyebrows

when all this time i could've been learning and skilling how to do my own hair, nails and toes and they all grow and prosper successfully. now, money's really short and hair, nails and toes can't get done every week or two. i refuse to walk around here looking like who shot john, so my bestfriend and i came up with a solution, do your own. duh, missy! so, i will be investing in some rollers, a dryer and save about $80 a month on JUST HAIR. well, it's a plan, now let's just find the time to perfect the problem. so i can do this shit in my sleep.

my nails and toes, well this is a different story. i get tips. and those, starting price is $25. design? add 5, well missy being missy HER designs are $10. toes? $15-$20, depending on where you go. well, problem solver? invest in a nail&toe kit, i already have a foot massager. mind as WELL, right? thats saving $100-$110 a MONTH! ...

thats a total of $190 a month! i'm so disappointed in myself for spending this a month. yea, somethings gotta change. NOW.

well, let's get to it. i'll keep you updated and post some pictures here and there.

let's save some money ! =)

miss independent

at first, i didn't want to write this because i wanted my first blog of 2011 to be more uplifting. but it's been weighing on my mind for a few days now. last night only confirmed my thoughts. so i knew this just had to be it.
i must admit, for me to be so "independent" i am so relying on others. i always want to be with some ONE. my ladies, my boyfriend even as far as my dog. needing some other organism around me. but now more so, i want to learn to be ALONE. completely. just myself and my thoughts. learning new things, creating new hobbies, keeping organized, keeping connected to my love of fashion & volleyball, and self-satisfaction. i feel if i can accomplish this, i can be my greatest self.
yes, i've accomplished a few goals. but where's my hustle? my drive? my go-getta attitude i had all my life?
where did this shelled me come from? listening to my friend Amber talk about her hustle, "fuck these niggas" attitude and her self-improving attitude, gave me my drive back. she helped me see what i've been struggling to see for so long "it's all about Y O U". she stressed how i'm too grown. never cry over spilled milk, meaning:

• no man!
• no job
• no let down!

i use to be so wrapped up in my boyfriend, it usually being about HIM and US, but never ME. giving up what i love to do to be with him. so worried about him and what every other guy might think of me. instead of me simply not caring. i'm not saying he forced me, and he isn't a bad boyfriend. it was my OWN choice. but he's obviously been doing his thing, keeping himself tight and right. why should i stop my own tight&right quest?

• hair
• nails&toes
• bartending <3
• gym!!
• make up artistry <3333
• waitressing
• relationship with God
• learning french, spanish & italian.

self-improvement! it's more than a resolution. it's a way of life. Missy J is BACCKK to stay!
thank you to my strong&powerful girls. i love you ladies. and no matter where you go, you'll ALWAYS be in my heart. i'll always be a phone call away and i love traveling. <3
Jazz. Indy. Jour. Amber. Cryss. Candice.